My Black Friend Says…:Lessons in Equity, Inclusion, and Cultural Competency
My Black Friends Says… is the book we need right now. Written as a series of short essays with pauses for reflection and journaling, MBFS… explores the issue of race in a very practical, inviting, and empowering way. This book will give readers the ability to approach race issues from a position of knowledge and confidence. It teaches readers about the ways in which we develop biases, how to tackle those biases and associated emotions, and how to move forward without shame or fear. Though each essay addresses an individual issue related to inclusion and diversity in our society, the combined knowledge will allow people to see the nuances of racism, discrimination, and advocacy in America. With an appendix of suggested reading materials, study topics, and terms to know, this book provides readers with all they need to begin their journey towards being a better ally for people of color and helping themselves and other become catalysts for change.
Excerpt from the first essay, also titled “My Black Friend Says…”:
“Imagine this as a cross-country trip from New York to Los Angeles. Bringing your shame is like bringing your mattress from home with you on the trip, and every few miles, you have to stop and make sure it’s still secure. It makes the journey impossibly long and delays everyone else who has joined in, as well. It’s best to leave that mattress(shame) behind and experience all the new opportunities you’ll find down the road. Some of those experiences will feel like a night at the Ritz Carlton; others will feel like a pallet on a forest floor. Experience. Learn. Reflect. Think. Fall in love with the journey and the people with whom you share it.”